Robbed At Gunpoint In Rio – Part 1

by Roni

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So it has been a month since I was robbed at gunpoint in Rio and I’m pissed. I haven’t been the same since and I’m really not happy about it. I have been sad, depressed, grateful, angry, loved, and any other emotion you can think of. But today I am angry. Here is why:

  • I’m angry at the little bastard who put the gun in my face. How dare he.

  •  I’m angry that some people in my life can’t see how broken I am right now.

  •  I’m angry that because I am normally a strong woman some feel that I need to “get over it” and move on. Please tell me how I do that.

  • I’m angry that I am so angry.

  • I’m angry that panic attacks have become part of my life when before they were only something I had read about.

  • I’m angry that I get scared in unexpected situations and I have to talk myself down.

  •  I’m angry that I have had to cut some people out of my life because they weren’t able to catch me when I asked for help as I felt myself falling.

I am very rarely vulnerable. I don’t normally write about emotions or how things make me feel but right now this is the only outlet I have to share what is going on with me.

I have been to therapy, that helped. And this is cathartic as well and I thank you for reading. I know that I will eventually be ok. I know that one day I will look back on this time and be grateful I got through it but right now I am not ok.

 

Have you ever been the victim of trauma? How did you deal with it?

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9 comments

Sheilita Joseph June 29, 2014 - 5:41 pm

Dear Travel Guru-
I am so sorry you experienced such a trauma especially doing something you love. I’ve never experienced something like that but can only imagine how you must have felt and still feel. Like many traumatic experiences, I am sure there will be many more stages you will go through so you’re being angry right now is OK..you have every right to be angry with that person and angry that we live in a world where you cannot let your guard down to enjoy the beautiful things around you. As you go through your healing process, know that you are loved, admired, prayed for, and not forgotten. Right now you are wounded, but in YOUR time, you will get better.
I always enjoy your blogs and stories about travel. That you educate us with the good, bad, and scary.
He may have robbed you of your physical things and perhaps a little mentally but I hope you don’t allow him to steal your joy for travel and sharing it with the world!

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Roni June 30, 2014 - 12:42 am

He has stolen my joy for the moment but I’ll get it back eventually. Thank you for all that you said, it’s comforting.

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Cassandra V June 29, 2014 - 6:04 pm

Hey Travel Guru. Thanks for sharing. While I’ve never been assaulted abroad, I have been assaulted at gunpoint here in my hometown. It’s horrific and you are right you’ll feel all of those emotions. You’ll just need to keep allowing yourself time. As strong willed people we are often used to bouncing back from challenges, but this is one of those instances where only time & therapy will heal you of the trauma. I have confidence that you, just like me, will eventually find a place where things will get better bit by bit day by day. Sending hugs and prayers to you. You’re such a kind person and didn’t deserve this.

The “friend” reaction to your assault I can also identify with. People often lack the ability to feel the things we feel, give them grace, but know that there will be many others to be there to help you along the way in ways that you’ll not expect.

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Roni June 30, 2014 - 12:41 am

Sorry you went through that, it’s just horrid. Thanks so much for your kind words. I appreciate them.

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Dani June 30, 2014 - 1:15 pm

(HUG) You’re a brave, strong girl. Yes, I’ve dealt with trauma and it is something that stays with you forever even if the sting dulls with time. You deal with it how you deal with it and ignore anyone who tells you how you “should” be feeling/coping. F em. *muah*

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Roni July 3, 2014 - 8:38 pm

Thanks so much, I truly appreciate this. Some people just don’t get it and it really frustrates me but oh well. Besos to you as well.

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Felicia S. July 16, 2014 - 8:57 am

Faida, I am so very sorry that this has happened to you. I truly sympathize with what you’re going through. I’m glad that you sought therapy, so many don’t. I have never been through anything close to this but I can tell you this, you feel whatever you feel, your feelings are valid and are to be respected. If anyone doesn’t understand that, then yes, remove them from your life. Take care of yourself in your own way and in your own time.

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Roni July 22, 2014 - 2:29 pm

Thanks darlin! I appreciate it.

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Lydz August 23, 2014 - 1:35 pm

So sorry about your experience! What is it with South America I was literally just yesterday reading about a Kenyan-American lady who is backpacking through South America who was robbed twice violently! l I really want to tour South America one day and these stories keep scaring me off. I keep trying to leave the link to her story but your settings won’t let me so I am gonna tweet it to you instead

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